Vibrate Your Sensory Kiddos To Some Inner Peace

Like many kiddos, my son has some big sensory needs. One day, when it OT, he found himself on a vibration plate. As he turned the dial up, his body began to vibrate more quickly. He then decided to stand on one side of the plate, giving him even more sensation as the plate vibrated on the highest setting.


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How fun is that? He is completely present to the sensations and even making a humming tone to further enjoy the effects of the rapid vibration. I am still in awe of how much he loves this vibrating plate. As recommended by my son’s OT therapist, we finally purchased one for our home. And, it’s amazing to see my 12 year old learning to self-regulate on his own.

Sometimes kids just need some help regulating, and having the tools on hand make it so much easier. I love to see my kiddo give himself a sensory break by standing on his vibration plate whenever he needs. It’s been a great way for him to regain composure and self control throughout the day.

Pictured below is is the vibration plate that we have: Best Choice Products Vibration Plate. It has great reviews and is the most reasonably priced.

If you haven’t see it yet… watch my son on his vibration plate… This is self-regulation at its finest!!! Click link:

His cousins were over for a visit, and they enjoyed some time on it as well. And the videos of them are just a great! It’s easy to see how it helps the sensory seekers and the kiddos needing some regulation, as they find their way back to it on their own when they need it.

Finding the right tools for my kiddo has been quite the journey. I hope to help you find some tools to help you with yours. Here are some other Vibration Plate Choices if you’re looking for your options.

Here’s to Our Self-Regulating Kiddos!

Candice A. Torresdal

Check out my latest book to share more self-mastery with your kiddos… Insightful Kids Self-Mastery Thru Poetry

The Perfect Books for Kiddos with ADHD!

Are you ready for your kiddo to have success reading and enjoy it at the same time?

I see posts on Facebook and Instagram of my friends’ kids reading thick books like Harry Potter for fun in their own time. That’s just not my kiddo, and I’ve learned that it’s ok! My son can learn to read and enjoy it at his own pace.

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I have found that fluency is better developed when kids read material they can understand and be challenged without reaching their individual frustration level. That’s what these books I’m here to write about do! They are well written stories in short 1 – 3 page chapters with a picture mystery at the end of each chapter for your kiddo to solve! I love them, because my son is having success reading and enjoying the colorful picture mysteries at the end of each chapter. The reason they are so great for kids with add and/or adhd is because the chapters are so short, giving reluctant readers a realistic and achievable goal rather than overwhelm.

I have my son read to me each day, and because the chapters are so short, it’s easy to fit into my schedule and he is compliant knowing the short amount of time it’ll take. Daily reading with my son has made him a better reader, allowed him daily success from completing a chapter each time we read, and given us a routine to spend time together working on his reading fluency in a fun, predictable way.

My kiddo is just not the kiddo that’s going to pick up a book and read it on his own. If you have one of those in your family, and you’d like to read with them in a fun, manageable way that fits in your schedule… check these books out here: Solve them Yourself Picture Mysteries for KIDS. My kiddo and I love them! We started with Legend of the Star Runner.

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Any time reading with your kids will always be time well spent.

Happy Reading!

Never Have a Bad Day Again

Parenting can be challenging to say the least. I think it’s one of the biggest kept secrets… how hard parenting can actually be. There’s no dispute about how rewarding it is, and that’s out in the open… but as for how hard & demanding… that’s another story.

My kiddo and I, a while back, had to change the way we dealt with difficulty throughout the day. He used to say “this is the worst day” or “I’m having the worst day”. And, his attitude would perpetuate itself, drawing more of the same. So I would find us having one bad day after another. This quickly gained my attention, and I had to do something.

I realized that one bad moment should never determine the worth of the entire day. That’s insane! We’d never have a good day again if that were the case. It’d make more sense to hold on to one good moment and make that the theme of the day.

Thing is, life is a series of moments, and my kiddo does have bad moments from time to time. I was ready to go along with him and just say “this day sucks”. But that is not how I wanted to live. I decided that it was just the moment that didn’t feel good. And I told him something we use to this day. This is it….

Life is a series of moments… some good, some bad… some amazing. Our day is a series of many, many moments, so it’s impossible to have a bad day… only a few bad moments.

When he’s having a bad moment, he’s very aware of his unhappiness…. and he knows that it will pass. Kids have bad moments where something doesn’t go their way or they get hurt or their build in Minecraft gets destroyed. This is normal, and it’s an excellent opportunity for them to practice how to handle what they are feeling.

As parents, we can help them see that this is just a moment… and while it is less than desirable, they can handle it, it will pass, and everyone has bad moments from time to time.

We are their teachers. We can model with scripting out loud as we work through our bad moments. How else are they supposed to learn? Here’s an example…

Maybe a payment doesn’t go through, and you say out loud… “wow, this is a bad moment… I have lot of emotion right now… I need to get a breathe of fresh air… I know it’ll be ok… I won’t feel like this forever… this will pass… ” Then take a few breathes and say out loud…”hmm.. what can I do about this? what do I have control over? what’s my next best move here” And, you can continue with more of “I wish this didn’t happen, I’m so upset, but it’ll be ok, it always works out, I’ll figure it out” or you can skip right to solving the problem “I’m going to call them and see about making a payment in a couple of days… maybe they’ll be okay with that”. Being able to model an empowered mindset in difficult situations lifts both you and your kiddo… as you reinforce to yourself as well, that you can handle things that come your way.

My kiddo has some unique challenges, as do most kids these days. And, if I don’t teach him something directly, he might not pick it up through osmosis. All kids can benefit from modeling how to handle bad moments, and bad moments will turn into opportunities for them to master themselves and their mindset. No longer will you or your kiddos ever have a bad day. You will simply have tough moments… maybe some really, really tough moments. However, at the end of each day, you can reflect with your kiddo on all the moments and point out the ones you enjoyed the most, while expressing your pride in how they are handling tough ones better and better each time. It might be more of an expression of faith in their ability to handle the tough moments, until they grow that muscle.

They will hear your voice in their heads one day. What voice will that be? My kiddo will hear things like “I know you can handle this! You will figure this out. This will pass. You are strong. Tough moments are normal, What CAN you do about it (what do you have control over), and You’ll know what to do, You’ll see… it’ll work out, etc.” What you teach your kids is something they’ll have forever. Help them never have a bad day again. You matter more to them than you’ll ever know!

Here’s to our Insightful Kids!


Balance Your Kiddos Brain!

Watch this video and balance your kiddos brain along with me! This is a powerful technique that can be used to balance, restore, improve and heal the communication within your kiddo’s brain. It’s also like hitting the refresh, reboot, update button; and it’s like the undo button in an emergency! Give it a try! It’s posted in a FB live video on the Insightful Kids FaceBook page… Here’s the link! Enjoy!

I use this technique all the time on myself and my kiddo. It’s amazing.

Here’s to our insightful kids,


Got Parenting Muscles?

How strong are your Parenting Muscles?

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Muscles get stronger with training and use. You go to college for several years to train for a job or profession. You hire a personal trainer to get into shape. You follow a training regimen in order to compete in a particular race. You join Toastmasters to develop your speaking skills. You take dance lessons to learn to dance. My question is… how much training have you had for the most important job of your life? Parenting.

Take this “Parenting Muscles” Quiz to find out how strong your Parenting Muscles are. Answer True or False.

  1. My kids do what I want with ease.
  2. My kids never argue with me.
  3. I feel that I can get my kids to easily meet my expectations in the home and in public, ie: bedtime, chores, schoolwork, manners, errands, etc.
  4. I am totally calm and at peace on the inside when parenting.
  5. I feel completely in charge when it comes to my kids.
  6. I can be completely in charge in a loving and kind way every time I parent.

What I find is that some parents find themselves a little helpless in getting their kids to do what is expected. These parents negotiate with their kids, try to reason with them, argue with them, and end up giving in to what their kids want. These parents are afraid to upset their kids, and they desperately want to be the “nice guy”. I know, because I was THAT parent.

If your score above included more False than True answers, then you may benefit by training your parenting muscles. The way your kid responds to you is YOUR responsibility. It’s not your partner’s fault. You would never expect the push-ups your partner does to make your arms stronger! You are a grown up. You have the ability to foster the type of relationship you want with your kids. Take full responsibility. All of the info is out there.

Stop blaming your kid for how they’re acting, or blaming your partner for not making the kid do what you wanted when you’re the one “on duty”. Thing is, when you’re on duty, you are the one in charge. If you are looking to your partner to lay down the law, then so is your kiddo. You need to be the one they look to for their expectations when they are with you if you ever want their respect. Truth is… boundaries and expectations make kids feel safe…. but that’ll be its own blog post.

Parenting Muscles… you’ve got them, even if they’re not strong. It’s not hard. Google it. Google the situation you would like help with. Try some of the suggested techniques until something works. I ended up hiring a Love and Logic Parenting Coach. She helped me figure out what I would say in every possible variation of the conversations I was planning to have… like going to school, getting off the computer, doing homework. There were several meetings to deal with each one of the behaviors, and it worked! Hiring a parenting coach was the very best thing I have done for my relationship with my son and success in parenting him in a firm but loving way.

Grow your Parenting Muscles and become an Empowered Parent that can guide your kiddos to success in life.

Happy Parenting!

Candice A. Torresdal

How to Go from CoSleeping to a Big Kids Bed Easily

Cosleeping can be magical, but so can sleeping in your very own bed!


Cosleeping is cute when your kids are young, but I was ready for my son to be sleeping in his own room long ago.

We coslept in a family bed way longer than I thought we would. For those of you attachment parenting parents or parents of cuddly kids, there comes a time when your kiddo may sleep better in their own bed, or you’re just ready to have your bed back. When that time comes, try this technique to make the transition smooth!

My son is 9, and I finally figured out a way to get him to choose to sleep in his own bed all by himself. It’s amazing! I tried everything for years now… I would lay in bed with him until he was asleep and sneak out, but the moment he stirred, he found his way to my room. I tried to bribe him with gifts. I read books about sleep training. I even hired a sleep coach at one point. The thing is, I learned over and over that you can’t bribe a child to feel safe, and you can’t consequence a child into feeling safe, and you can’t train a child into being safe…. and that is what this issue is, not feeling safe all alone or not feeling safe in the dark, or both.

Here’s the nugget of wisdom… It’s important to develop a safeness and security for your kiddos if they are scared of the dark or scared to sleep alone. As they are falling asleep, there is a magic window of time where their brains are sponges. You get to bypass their conscious mind and tell their subconscious exactly what it needs to hear. So, once you’ve done your bedtime routine, read some books, turned out lights, sung songs…. do this.

As they get into that relaxed sleepy state, quitely and slowly tell your kiddo… “as you lay in bed and let your whole body relax, you begin to fall asleep and know that you are so loved, you are so safe, you are protected… as you get all cozy in your bed and feel your fluffy pillow under your head, you are safe and protected and just so loved… you can easily let your whole body relax and get a perfect night’s sleep and wake up refreshed… your bed is so cozy and you are so safe and so loved… I love you so much…(maybe list more people who love your child)… and you’re just so loveable… and you are so safe, you feel so safe, you know you are safe, and you are so protected, etc”. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat.

Trust me… if your kiddo isn’t sleeping in his own room, and you are ready for him to, this is magic!  So, here’s my success story with this… one night, lights are out and it’s time to drift off… and in the same voice I use to sing an original song, I started softly repeating the above words. About 5-10 minutes into it, my son quietly said, “Mom, can I sleep in my own room?” And, he’s been in his own room everynight since, and it’s been his choice everynight. The fact that in about 10 minutes he elected to sleep in his own room after years of trying everything under the sun, still amazes me.

This is a safe and effective way to help your kids know, on the deepest level, how loved they are and how safe they are even when they are in their own beds. Give it a try and let me know how it goes! Do this everynight until your kiddos are begging you to sleep in their own beds!  And it can be easily done in addition to whatever other things you are using to transition from cosleeping to individual sleeping.

Looking forward to hearing how this sleeping magic works for you!

Lots of Light,


Candice A. Torresdal is the author of My Brain is a Thinking Machine, a self mastery book for kids; and Yawning Yawning, Time for Bed, a bedtime book for younger kids. 

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BEDTIME can be a magical time… check this kids’ book out!

I will upload again soon… stay tuned!

Thank you for joining me! I loved showing you around my kids’ book and hope you make the time to share special moments with your kids before bed.

What do you do to make bedtime magical? How do your kids feel as they drift off to sleep?

May your bedtime routine become magical, if it’s not already!

Lots of Light,


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Mindset for Kids

Mindset if For Kids Too!

Could you imagine who you would be if you were taught the power of positive thinking when you were a kid? What if you were rewarded for empowered thinking the same way you were rewarded for good behavior and good grades? And, what if you were given negative consequences for dis-empowered thinking just like unacceptable behavior and grades? Who would you be if empowered thinking had been hard wired into your way of being at a young age?

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Mindset is not just for adults!

Let’s give the future generation a head start by teaching them now how to master their minds. It begins with you! First, walk the talk. Be sure that you are modeling each step so that the expectations are very clear for your kids or students. Simply think out loud whenever you have a positive or negative thought. Say what you are thinking to model bringing awareness to your mindset and then continue speaking your thoughts as you shift to more positive, empowering self-talk.

Mindset Rules

First, set the rules. All households and schools have set rules for behavior and clear consequences when the rules are broken. As we expand into a more aware experience of our world, we can expand these expectations, or rules, to our mindset as well. You need to be very clear on what is acceptable and what is not. Tell your kids or students that it is not okay to say “I can’t” or “I never”. Then give them acceptable statements like “I can ask for help” or “what can I do about this?” etc.

Mindset Consequences

Lastly, give your kids clear consequences for any negative, dis-empowering mindset, like self-talk or giving up. My favorites are include extra chores and pull-ups or push-ups. And, I explain the chores by saying that perhaps they need more responsibility to see that they are able to figure things out and get things done. I explain the physical consequence by saying that maybe strengthen the body will help strengthen the mind.

Resulting Mindset

Honestly, if you implement mindset rules and consequences, your kids or students will very quickly get the message that it’s not okay to have limited, dis-empowered thinking. You will see them quickly shift their mindset into a more empowered, positive approach. This is amazing to watch, and it changes the entire mood of the room. Kids become problem solvers, looking for ways to make things work and ask for help when they can’t figure things out. This increases their self-esteem, as well as, their success in what they are doing, because they don’t just give up.

Let’s help our kids and students develop a mindset that will empower them and set them up for a successful future!

If you’d like a great book for kids on mindset, try this awesome kid’s picture book My Brain is a Thinking Machine. In a fun social story, kids learn how to pay attention to the good thoughts and what to do with the rest.

Lots of Light,

Candice T. Aguirre

Love & Values

Want More Love & Values?

You have so much love, values, and wisdom to share with your kids, but if your day is anything like mine, there just isn’t enough time to get it all done. I realized that at the end of the day, I wanted to be sure that my son knew a few things like: I loved him unconditionally; what matters most in life; and other nuggets of wisdom.

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Learning Love & Values Automatically

Kids learn by what they see everyday and by repetition. So, you not only need to practice what you preach by modeling the type of love and values you want your kids to have, but you have to be consistent and repeat, repeat, repeat. No one is perfect, so kids are not always getting messages of love and values. And, we have to add others to this equation… that’s other parents, teachers, classmates, siblings, family members, tv, games, etc. So, how can we be sure our kids go to sleep with their head filled with Love and Values, rather than performance on a spelling test, spilling milk at dinner, fighting with sibling, a Mindcraft game, etc.?

Love & Values Made Easy Way

As I finished putting my son to bed every night, I would turn off the lights and sing him the song… Twinkle Twinkle, Little Star. And, he would drift off to sleep. Then, I would go to my room and use audio technology as I fell asleep, that makes positive suggestions to change programming in the subconscious. And, one night I decided to just substitute the words for the song, Twinkle Twinkle, Little Star. I found myself saying all the things I wished I had time to say during the day, and my son was getting these very powerful messages at the very best time to receive them… in that sleepy state where you can bypass the conscious mind. And still, every night, I sing to him about how much I love him; what I’m grateful for; all the things he can be proud of; praise his effort, hard work, and kindness; and whatever else comes to mind.

What You Can Do Right Now

Take advantage of the very magical time as your kiddo is falling asleep to share with them how much you love them and what your values are. As they get sleepy, they become sponges to anything you say. This is a wonderful time to tell them how much you love them, apologize, tell them how precious they are to you, tell them all the things you are grateful for, remind them of all their strengths, praise their effort, hard work, problem solving skills, creativity, and ability to be a kind sibling and good friend.  You can sing all this love, values, and wisdom to the tune of your favorite lullaby. It’s never to early or late to start! If you need help getting started, I put my lullaby of love and values into a book, called Yawning Yawning, Time for Bed, and it is available HERE.

Your kids are too important to miss out on what you have to share with them, and what you know is too important not to share!

Lots of Light,



Big Emotions & Kids

Big Emotions Can Be Scary!

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What Do You Do When Your Kid Has Big Emotions?

Big Emotions are intense and scary for anyone… your body is out of control including your hormones and neurotransmitters. Not only are big emotions scary for the person having them, they can scare those around you. Anyone can struggle when they were not taught how to handle big emotions. Your job as a parent is to recognize and understand your own big emotions, learn to deal with them in a healthy way… and then teach your child to do the same.

Steps to Handling BIG EMOTIONS – (When everyone’s calm)

  1. Discuss what BIG EMOTIONS are: Anger, Sadness, Frustration, Overwhelm, etc.
  2. Discuss your experiences with BIG EMOTIONS and how everyone has them.
  3. Make a list with your kid of how to handle BIG EMOTIONS in a healthy way.  (take a walk, say how you feel, go to a quite place, get some fresh air, breathe, get a drink of water, get under a heavy blanket, cuddle with loved one…etc.)
  4. Set Boundaries. Make sure it’s clear that it’s never okay to hurt anyone or anything when angry. Discuss how people do and say things they don’t mean when they are angry, and then they often regret it.
  5. Role Play. Take turns and try on some big emotions and handling them in a healthy way.  My favorites are…
    • BIG EMOTION: Anger – getting outside for some fresh air and a walk
    • BIG EMOTION: Sadness- going to a quiet place, under a heavy blanket, and a cuddle.
  6. Think out loud while role-playing and during the day so that your kids can hear what you are thinking as you handle your emotions. “Wow, I’m so mad. I forgot the tickets. I need to take a few breaths… just give me a moment to calm down… maybe a walk too… ”  The more your child hears your inner dialogue the more it’ll become theirs.

Steps to Handling BIG EMOTIONS – (When they are happening)

  1. Recognize big emotion and if needed, set boundaries.  Ex.  “I can see you are very angry, I will talk to you when you are calm.”  (or “no, it’s not okay to hit. First calm down, then you will have my full attention.”)
  2. Make sure they are safe until calm… even if it takes 45 minutes. Do NOT give them attention until they have calmed down. Do NOT yell at them. Do NOT scare them. They are already scared… just give them space to calm down.
  3. Once calm, praise them for calming themselves down, even if it took an hour. Then help them clean up as you talk about big emotions. (see “Steps to handling big emotions – when everyone’s calm”… above)
  4. If your child gets as angry as my 6-year-old, you may need to take a moment for yourself to get some fresh air, listen to some soothing music, or even get a baby sitter for a few hours to recover.
  5. Do NOT punish your kids once they have calmed down. They need praise for calming down and encouragement that they can probably calm down even quicker next time.

*my son (age 6) can get stuck in a meltdown/violent attack, and I want to share a quick story.  Yesterday on a drive home, my son started to melt down, because I said no to going on a walk. As I drove, he hurled a large blue ice block at my face, then a second one, also a direct hit. I quickly pulled the car over, and I was desperate to calm him down. After what seemed forever as my face and ear throbbed in pain…  I tried repeating “I love you, I love you, you are safe” as I blocked his hits and tried to keep him out of the front seat… and my son went from being violent towards me to weeping on the floor. Meeting his anger and violence with love quickly melted his aggression… it was really amazing to witness. In the future, I will be experimenting with this and also be sure to NOT keep large heavy objects next to him in the back seat of the car.

What everyone needs to know about BIG EMOTIONS

  1. Big Emotions are NOT bad. Emotions are normal, and they are your body/mind’s way of communicating something.
  2. Everyone has BIG EMOTIONS.
  3. Feelings do NOT need limits and boundaries…. but behavior definitely does.
  4. NOT everyone deals with them in a health way. Even adults develop unhealthy coping strategies like comfort eating, drinking, smoking, etc.
  5. It takes practice. Practice when you are calm and when you are not calm.
  6. The more you model good coping strategies for BIG EMOTIONS, the better your kids can learn from your example.

Be gentle with yourself and your kids as you learn to step into a deeper place of feeling and managing those BIG EMOTIONS. You CAN do this!

Lots of Light,


Candice T. Aguirre is the author of Yawning Yawning, Time for Bed a magical nighttime social story sharing love and values while teaching the bedtime routine. Read or sing to the tune of Twinkle Twinkle, Little Star and insert your own values and bits of wisdom along the way. A great way to make a big impression on your children at a very magical time… that is… right as they relax to fall asleep and their brain waves change, allowing them to absorb what you tell them on a very deep level for learning that lasts.